Thursday, November 1, 2012

You are amazing and important.

Someone shared this with me so I thought I would pass it along.  It is only a 1 1/2 min video so I know you have time for it.

This is for all the princess lovers and also for all the people who judge princess lovers or who think that little girls shouldn't love to be princesses.

Princess Video

It's too bad that as we grow the world beats out of us what we actually think of ourselves.  We are born loving ourselves and believing that we are special and important.  Then we get out into the world and people shame us for liking ourselves and help us to believe we are not OK.  When we finally leave high school we spend years trying to get to know ourselves and like ourselves again.  It is one long circle.  Personally it took me until I was 30 to be comfortable in my own skin again.  What's your story?  When did you figure out you were pretty amazing and important and actually believed it?

I have had people tell me that when raising kids you shouldn't tell them how great they are all the time because when they get out into the world they will find out they no more special than the other kids.

What!!!??? Are you serious???

I don't buy that at all.  Don't get me wrong if one of my kids is really bad at something I am not going to tell them they are spectacular and lie to them but I'm also not going to tell them they are bad at it.  If they are bad at something it gives me the opportunity to teach them about hard work and practice and learning to become better at things.  I don't want my kids to just be good at everything they do or think they are the best because then if something is hard they won't try it but they will just skip it and go to something they are good at which doesn't do them any good.  Where am I and how did I get here?

I have no idea, I hope this makes sense.

Everyone is special, everyone is important.
It's OK to love yourself and think you are amazing as long as you are aware that you are not superior to the people around you.

Brene Brown has talked about the idea that you can only love those around you as much as you love yourself.  The more you love yourself the more you can love others.

I agree.

I'm pretty sure I have posted about this before but it's worth saying again.

Love to you.
Love to me.


sweetheber said...

Love it!! So sweet!! Your girls are beautiful princesses!

Shayla D. said...

I'm with ya on this one. How will kids know they're special if someone doesn't tell them? HELLO! And it's not about giving them a sense of superiority. I tell my boy every day how special he is, he's my very best blessing, and he's awesome. And if he does something well, I let him know. I don't see how that can ever hurt. And when I pay him a compliment and he says "I know" I'm fine with that.

Okay, I'm off my soapbox now. :o)

Ms. Hobbs said...

I'm with the idea to a point. It's good to tell kids that they are good and special, but if you boost them up and tell they are amazing for the end results of what they DO it will create issues later when they face adversity in school or life. They will actually shy away from working hard, because they aren't emotionally prepared to struggle. I think as long as you focus your boosting to the "trying" instead of the end result, it will give kids the incentive to keep trying, which is what ultimately leads to success for people. This was covered a lot in that book called "Nurture Shock".

I'm naturally inclined to do what my mom did though, which is to tell everyone that EVERYTHING they do is amazing, even if it isn't. I can't tell you what a shock it was to find out that the world didn't think I was as awesome as my mother did.

I guess if someone was going to error on one side or the other, it's better to boost your kids too much than not enough. Mom's really are so important.

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